Will you be open to me teaching my children my athiest point of view. Whatever your leaders have said, consider their counsel, give it the weight it deserves, then counsel with your Heavenly Father about your own situation. I sacrificed my career not in medicine but I have advanced degrees in my profession because I felt so lucky to be able to be at home raising my two wonderful sons. Why prophets are awesome. You guys sound like you have a great and committed relationship - a true jewel in this world. Basically nothing like reality.
I would not have wanted to be dismissed as crazy and unworthy of attention when I was still a member, because it wouldn't have been true. Be direct and get your needs met. He did call frequently, so I don't think its a good sign that your doctor guy isn't calling. It almost feels like a single parent family. I have known many women who have married non-members and are happy. It may not seem like a big deal now, but eventually it will probably surface that at best, the church impacts and influences her behavior in almost every area, at worst, it dictates it. Of course, it will cause fights, as well. The importance of modesty. Maybe watch "Going Clear" with her.
Perhaps it was just her personality but I find most doctors repulsive. And even then it will put Huge stress on it and on you for the rest of your life. I still feel enriched by the contrasts, but in the important things, we have largely come together.
I'll bring up some CES letter issues, let her know why I wouldn't want my children raised like this, and we'll see what happens. They know that they are the best. Play with fire if you don't fear getting burned.